logo
logo
  • Home
  • About
  • Projects
  • Thoughts
logo
  • Home
  • About
  • Projects
  • Thoughts
ThoughtsNovember 11, 2011

Love Does Not Hurt

By admin

An important statement that resonates with me.

In Oprah’s Life Class, she talked about how “Love Does Not Hurt” and that people who love you would never hurt you. I’ve had my fair share of relationships and I admit some were not perfect. I recall dating a guy that would often make me feel like I was small, and that I was lucky to be dating someone like him. I started to develop a complex and felt like I didn’t deserve anything better. I had a battered woman complex-always apologizing and afraid to say or do something wrong in fear of getting reprimanded physically or emotionally.
I left the relationship, broken in spirit and made sure that I would set high standards for myself and never revisit that part of my life again. It was part of my impetus to find what I was looking for. I was looking for value, I was wishing that I could be confident again and prove to myself that I was not worthless like that ex had said I was. So I every chance I had, I made sure i focused on my career and goals in life. My little journey was a tough lesson but I learnt it. I never dated anyone after that would ever make me feel like I was dependant and pathetic. I avoided people who would intentionally find ways to hurt me. So out of Oprah’s show – I had my Ah-Ha moment and haven’t felt such truth behind a statement.
I get a little harsh with my friends because I love them and I truly believe that they’re an extension of me. When I hear of disgruntled relationships, partners putting down another, humiliating them, “punishing” them, I get really sick to my stomach. I know what it feels like to feel defeated and trapped, I would never wish that upon my worst enemy. In the show, some of these women cling on to these relationships for the sake of their children, for the sake of “feeling loved”, for the sake of holding on to good memories. But the truth is, no one deserves to be treated that way and you have to believe that you deserve better.
Love doesn’t hurt. It never has and it never should.

bad relationships, hurt, life class, love, oprah, pain, relationships
Previous Oxygen Coverstory – DKNY x Petaling Street
Next Wet and Wild in Toronto

Related Posts

The Cost of a Hustle

5 Life Lessons learnt from Dengue

The local Ah Lian reppin the local music scene!

Comment

There is no comment on this post. Be the first one.

Leave a comment or Cancel Reply

  • Instagram

    Jessie: Ewwww get away, I don’t want to take you Jessie: Ewwww get away, I don’t want to take your stupid photos. 

Me: C’mon just like we practiced! 

Jessie: Fine, just a smiling one and I’m out! 

😂😂😂

#jessiesgirl #rescuedog #fosterfail
    I’m reminded it’s a Public Holiday today, I ma I’m reminded it’s a Public Holiday today, I may or may not be walking around like this…taking drink orders. 😂 

“Teh Ais satu!”
    These aunties are getting old! Esp when 10:30pm is These aunties are getting old! Esp
when 10:30pm is time for bedtime. Thanks ladies for the little treat and redefining “old” at this age! 😂😂😂😂 #goldencircle
    Licks to atone for living rent free and opening my Licks to atone for living rent free and opening my presents. 😒
    Oh gosh! I was feeling the love yesterday from fri Oh gosh! I was feeling the love yesterday from friends and family. I felt so grateful to have everyone in my life, especially those who have taken the time to send birthday wishes. The pink candle represents the last year of this decade for me! So it was indeed a special one. My friends know me best when it comes down to being celebrated on my special day! How can one complain when there is an abundance of love being showered over me. Thank you for one of the best birthdays yet! 🥰🥰🥰 

#donttellmom
    Been uploading some stuff on the site and found th Been uploading some stuff on the site and found these old pics from my shoots of yesteryear. I’m old guys, I’ve been in this industry for 20 years!!!! 

Sympathy likes please. 🫣
    A quote stolen from @kuteblackson. The more I tr A quote stolen from @kuteblackson. 

The more I try to control the more I am inundated with pressure, when you release and surrender to what is, the easier it is to accept and let go. Anytime I feel an urge to fight or challenge, I look inward and ask myself, what is really going on underneath? When life is going to unfold in the way it’s supposed to be, there’s no use spending your time worrying about the what ifs. You might as well go along for the ride called life because it can bring you to higher places you’ve ever imagined.
    There’s still room for lemang. There’s still room for lemang.
    Birthday Month 🥳 #taurusseason Birthday Month 🥳
#taurusseason
    Follow on Instagram
  • Facebook

    Sarah Lian

    9 hours ago

    Sarah Lian
    This year has been memorable for many reasons and it has been the year where I have introduced more self-acceptance in my journey. The feeling of lack and the needing to compare has faded into the opportunity to celebrate joy.By the act of surrender and flowing into alignment, the gift of abundance has been more evident than ever. Whatever I do to give comes back ten-fold through friendships, relationships and partnerships. I couldn’t have asked for a better way to close out my birthday and give a treat to those who don’t often feel celebrated. I wanted to share my blessings with them. Thank you @mykyochon for helping me organise, @ngohub.asia for helping me discover @destinywelfare and @nadiahnasirr / @heyjnrjh for being a part of this. More importantly Irene for offering these children a chance for these kids to get a solid education during these formative years. Everyone remembers kindness and it is never a random act. ❤️ ... See MoreSee Less

    Video

    View on Facebook
    · Share

    Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

    Sarah Lian

    2 days ago

    Sarah Lian
    Jessie: Ewwww get away, I don’t want to take your stupid photos. Me: C’mon just like we practiced! Jessie: Fine, just a smiling one and I’m out! 😂😂😂 ... See MoreSee Less

    Photo

    View on Facebook
    · Share

    Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

    Sarah Lian

    5 days ago

    Sarah Lian
    I’m reminded it’s a Public Holiday today, I may or may not be walking around like this…taking drink orders. 😂 “Teh Ais satu!” ... See MoreSee Less

    Photo

    View on Facebook
    · Share

    Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Share on Linked In Share by Email

  • Profile

© 2018 SarahLian.com. All rights reserved.